Whoever Said Love Hurts Lied

By: Guest Blogger-Eclectically Me

Another untruth that needs to be addressed is that ‘love hurts’. While angry with your significant other-or even a family member-tears are streaming down your face and you say to yourself, “love sucks” or ”love hurts”. No, no, and no my dear. Love doesn’t suck nor hurt. We’ve misconstrued the things that people do, with love being hurtful. People’s actions and  words  hurt us. Love doesn’t do that. Love cannot hurt us because it just wasn’t designed that way. Experiencing an adverse reaction from loving someone is indicative of  an issue that is relative to the persons involved. Not Love. Love, on its own is conflict-free. However, people are not.

According to 1Corinthians 13: 4-8, love is a host of things, and hurtful isn’t one of them. We must stop confusing our hurt from others with love. I’ve heard people say that they don’t want to be hurt and this is why they fear falling in love. What a disservice they are doing to themselves. Falling in love shouldn’t be feared. Love can do no wrong. But people can. Love isn’t deceitful. People though, are. If God is supposed to be love, how can we then say that love hurts? God doesn’t hurts us. We hurt each other. We even at times inflict pain upon our own selves because of our own actions and decisions that we make. I too have been hurt and felt that I was wronged by this thing called love. Now being older and much wiser, I can now say that love didn’t do it. It was always a collective effort on my behalf  and the other person involved.

We must also learn to be careful who we give our love/heart to. If we do not take great care in this, then yes, we will find ourselves in hurtful situations more often than we would like. Stop letting others’ victimize your love. Better yet, stop blaming love and blame yourself and the person whom you let do it. Love is Perfect. Not Reckless. Love is Grand. Not Wack. Love is Beautiful. Not Ugly. If you first love God and yourself before sharing it with someone else, you just may find that your relationship experiences would be a lot less negative. *Somebody just got mad right there.* Lol At the end of the day ‘people’ only do what you allow them to. Love on the other hand does just what it’s supposed to. Never Fail.

xoxo

EM

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Have you ever settled for less in love? If so, how did you overcome this?

 

Taria is the founding editor of Regal Realness. She is a writer, teacher, lifestyle blogger, and women’s empowerment expert. She helps women of color build & radiate confidence, discover their greatness, and come into their own.
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  1. I love this post! The Bible instructs us to protect our hearts above all else for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23