Kelly Rowland Has Not Always Loved Her Beautiful Brown Skin


How beautiful is Ms. Rowland? And to think that at some point she was not feeling her beautiful chocolate skin. The truth is that this is not uncommon in communities of color because darker always seems to be less than in the minds of some. Which is completely ridiculous! But, happily Ms. Kelly as seen the light at the end of that tunnel and decided she will embrace all of her chocolatey goodness! Yes! When we embrace who we are, we experience the greatest shift in life!

Kelly recently revealed on that she endured a brown girl struggle not to long ago. I remember I went through a period where I didn’t embrace my chocolatiness,” she shared. “I didn’t embrace my chocolate lifestyle. Just being a chocolate, lovely, brown-skin girl and being proud of that.” At times she even went as far as trying to avoid being in the sun.

She got the memo that black and brown was beautiful one day when she was in the sun with Tina Knowles, Beyonce’s mother. Tina Knowles said, ‘Are you crazy?’” Kelly recalled. “She said, ‘You are absolutely gorgeous’ and just told me how beautiful I was and how rare chocolate is and how gorgeous the skin is–and all of this stuff. And I was just like ,‘Yeah!’ Like a light went off.”

Finally Kelly began to feel comfortable in her own skin. She said, “You embrace it. You just embrace everything that you are as a woman.”


This is shared via Sonya Eskridge (Sister to Sister Magazine).

Have you ever felt the “brown girl blues” before? When did your light bulb go off?


  1. I have felt the brown girl blues before. I tried to mask it. Most of my closest friends are fair to light skinned women and one of them says that Im her “light skinned friend trapped in a dark skinned girls body”. I never found it offensive. I would always laugh it off. I have noticed how men choose light skinned women to have on their arm. I have even had close friends make comments are dark skinned people and then say but you are the exception. There is a hate for our own within our community. It is frightening. I am also a teacher and one of my seventh grade boys told me “Ms. Smith I dont ‘do’ brown skinned girls. I only like light skinned girls”. I know that we all have our preferences but we must stop teaching our youth these things. We are only hurting ourselves.

    • Jessica, thanks for taking time to respond to this post! I am also a teacher and I cringe when I hear little brown boys make these comments or even some of the girls say similar things about disliking their skin color and their hair texture. It is so scary. That is why I believe it is our responsibility to expose, educate, and empower them to think differetly. Black and brown is beautiful. In my book it has always been in style.