Girl I Know Natural Isn’t For Everyone, But You Might Want to Reconsider

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Although I have undertaken the much needed and necessary journey to get my hair back to health I recognize it isn’t for everyone. However, when I bring this up to others who may be struggling with their hair which is usually relaxed, I am presented with the side eye and, “Girl, I can’t go natural I would look a mess.” It reminded me of the following meme…

 

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Obviously, the relaxed isn’t working to well for you. I understand that going natural may seem scary because it is new, different, and still not totally acceptable in some circles despite its recent rise in popularity. However, it may not be such a bad idea to rethink your decision to change the way you care for your hair which could in turn boost your confidence and help your hair grow like you would like it to. If this is a struggle for you, consider researching natural hair more and following some great social media pages on Facebook YouTube, and Pinterest that can provide tutorials, videos, and pictures.

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At this point in time there is an abundance of resources, products, and how-to’s on natural hair that Can even be used to help take care of relaxed hair. Therefore, there is no reason why any woman should not have her hair done.

 According to a recent study, lack of confidence was linked to having a bad hair day. The survey completed by Travelodge, found that hair greatly impacted mood, and when it looked subpar women noted that it affected their self-esteem especially when they woke up in the morning. I never ever want this to be you, especially since the study points out that most women said this happened at least three times a week.

We all have our days, but most of the time you shouldn’t feel down because you can figure out what to do with your hair. Again, I’m not saying natural is for everyone but please re-consider. A woman who loves and embraces her natural hair will feel more confident and comfortable with herself and her appearance. [ Tweet This!]  

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I Want to Know:

  • Have you ever had this conversation with someone?
  • What holds people back from at least trying natural?
  • Would you agree that it is really no reason why someone’s hair should look a mess?
  • Do you ever feel a bit insecure when your hair is not done?

Comments

  1. That meme is the truth! I remember damaging and relaxing and dying my hair until I started to literally loose my hair. My mom would always warn me about trying to manipulate my hair… and in all actuality not only was I manipulating my hair trying to look “good” but I was conforming to this one standard of beauty saying that “straight hair is ‘iti” Yea right!!! I wont even straighten my hair now, not even with a blow dryer. The front of my hair never did thicken back up but after 4 years my hair is completely natural and curly and beautiful!

    I think the most important thing that happened to me when i decided to “go natural” is that it wasnt just a hair journey. That little bit of effort I put into my hair I began putting into my life to make all around better decisions for my hair, my body, my mentality and every aspect of being. Who knew hair could be so important! 😉

    • Ellenie,

      Thanks so much for sharing your own experiences. I never knew your story. Your curls are so beautiful. I would have never guessed it girl!
      Your right, who knew hair could be so important! It sure is, especially as it pertains to women of color. Happy you were able to change your life by changing how you cared for your hair.

  2. I think natural hair is beautiful but personally I cant. And when I tried it was a disaster. I went all of 5 months without a relaxer and ended up cutting all of my hair off out of frustration.

    • Candace I totally understand! I was talking about folks to consider natural when their relaxed wasn’t looking so good. When one goes natural, there is a transition period that is very frustrating the key is to fight through it and find some protective styles to get you through that phase so you can get to the “I’m natural and loving” stage. The struggle and frustration is real girl, but it is only temporary. I’ve been there and it was hell but I made it through!!!

      • Kudos to you darling. Who know.. maybe one day I will give it another shot.

        • Thanks. I hope one day you will. You certainly have to be ready for it if that is what you decide you want to do with your hair. It is a commitment for sure because you will have to stay committed during the good, bad, and ugly times until you figure out how to manage and love your natural tresses.

  3. I’m recently new to the natural game. My last relaxer was April 2012, and I’ve been transitioning since then. Going natural has been one of the most challenging things I’ve done in terms of my hair. Since I can remember, I’ve had relaxed hair. I got my first relaxer when I was young probably around the age of 5. I was living with my grandparents and my aunt who always did my hair decided to relax it because it was so thick and coarse. When my mother found out, she was pissed to say the least. According to my mother, my hair was beautiful and manageable. My aunt, however, disagreed lol. I’ve definitely struggled with my hair. I didn’t start to “get it right” until I was in high school. Since then, I was always praised for my beautiful (relaxed) hair. And it was beautiful – especially when I came fresh out of the salon lol. My hair has been long, medium and short. I always tried new looks with it. But…after some time, it wasn’t the same. The texture started to change and my hair started to break off. And I was tired of giving up my Saturday mornings to the salon. So I decided to go natural. But before I did, I want to try one more style – The asymmetrical short hair look…think Rihanna 2008. I loved it. I rocked it for 10 months then started my natural hair journey. On this journey, I realized that I put a lot of my confidence and feelings of beauty in to my hair because the past 15 months, I have not felt cute. I’ve been wearing protective styles such as micro braids, cornrow updos, and a weave. Although I know it’s the same me, I don’t feel like the same me. Sad to say but so much of how I perceived myself was wrapped up in my hair. I haven’t figured out how to “deal with” my hair, so I’m still hiding it under the disguise of “oh, I’m still letting it grow out” lol. I’m trying so hard to not relax it, but I haven’t yet figured out how to handle my natural hair. It is definitely coarse and very thick. But I am determined not to give up and give in to the creamy crack.

  4. I’m recently new to the natural game. My last relaxer was April 2012, and I’ve been transitioning since then. Going natural has been one of the most challenging things I’ve done in terms of my hair. Since I can remember, I’ve had relaxed hair. I got my first relaxer when I was young probably around the age of 5. I was living with my grandparents and my aunt who always did my hair decided to relax it because it was so thick and coarse. When my mother found out, she was pissed to say the least. According to my mother, my hair was beautiful and manageable. My aunt, however, disagreed lol. I’ve definitely struggled with my hair. I didn’t start to “get it right” until I was in high school. Since then, I was always praised for my beautiful (relaxed) hair. And it was beautiful – especially when I came fresh out of the salon lol. My hair has been long, medium and short. I always tried new looks with it. But…after some time, it wasn’t the same. The texture started to change and my hair started to break off. And I was tired of giving up my Saturday mornings to the salon. So I decided to go natural. But before I did, I want to try one more style – The asymmetrical short hair look…think Rihanna 2008. I loved it. I rocked it for 10 months then started my natural hair journey. On this journey, I realized that I put a lot of my confidence and feelings of beauty in to my hair because the past 15 months, I have not felt cute. I’ve been wearing protective styles such as micro braids, cornrow updos, and a weave. Although I know it’s the same me, I don’t feel like the same me. Sad to say but so much of how I perceived myself was wrapped up in my hair. I haven’t figured out how to “deal with” my hair, so I’m still hiding it under the disguise of “oh, I’m still letting it grow out” lol. I’m trying so hard to not relax it, but I haven’t yet figured out how to handle my natural hair. It is definitely coarse and very thick. But I am determined not to give up and give in to the creamy crack.

    Sorry for writing a novel lol

    • Petra, thank you for sharing. No problem a novel is fine! Many women put their confidence in their hair but it is important for us to remember that our hair does not define us. We define it. We are responsible for rocking it how we want. However, it is always important to keep healthy in the equation whether it is relaxed or natural. You will learn to love and understand your hair with time. It is a journey. One that you have only just begun. Wishing you luck and love on your natural hair journey. You can do it!!!