Why Competing With Other Women Dim Your Light, Life, and Legacy

 

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In my mind, jealousy seems like such a dirty word. I guess because being jealous of another woman seems like it is “so high school.” At a certain point don’t we as women get to a point where we have our own and don’t need to be worry about others? I guess not for some.

The pure hatred, stank eye rolls, and “mmmhhh” I see from women lately are disheartening. I admit it is not personally happening to me. But, I see it happen to other women around me.

Instead of being jealous of someone else’s life, why don’t you go make your own? While your worrying about some other woman and her “so-called great life” your light, life, and legacy are going downhill girl!

Light

A confident woman will glow with esteem and pride in herself if she is minding her own business, focusing on herself, and maintain a high level of self-confidence. Now it’s when you start meddling in someone else’s business, and what she has that you don’t have that trips you up.

Wherever focus goes, energy flows. So if you are focusing all your time and attention on another woman, there is no fuel left  to gas your on self up leaving you dimmer than dim! You will lack a glow if this is the route you choose to go. Choose self-love, self-respect, and self-worth over self-pity and self-doubt due to another woman.

Life

To be honest being jealous of another person is so time-consuming and unproductive. If this is the case for you, then this is a clear sign (RED FLAG!) that you need to get your own ish together. When you’re together you don’t even dwell on what so and so has that you don’t have. It comes a point in every woman’s life when she has to “woman up” and take full responsibility for her life, the decisions she makes, and the direction it is going in. When you focus on that (seriously!) there is no room to focus on anyone else.

Legacy

By focusing so much time on another woman, what are you working towards? Being like her? Having the man she has? Driving the car she drives? All of which is HER life, not yours! What legacy are you building? What message are you sending to your children?  (if you have any) The wrong message!

Send a message that to compete with other women means you are childish, immature, and inexperienced in empowered living!

Send a message that screams that real women empower not compete. Girls compete because they don’t know any better. But, grown, confident, got there ish together women don’t have to compete because they have done everything they can to ensure THEIR life is complete.

Learn and do better. That is all that I ask. Shine your light bright, build a great life, and a legacy worth being remembered and honored.  “When you know better, you do better.” – Maya Angelou

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Taria is the founding editor of Regal Realness. She is a writer, teacher, lifestyle blogger, and women’s empowerment expert. She helps women of color build & radiate confidence, discover their greatness, and come into their own.
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Comments

  1. some women just like to hate. However, I prefer to kill people with kindness. It hits them where it hurts and get you further

    • Kindness works! However, you should always be authentically you and not be fake about what you do. It is important that you be kind, but be true to yourself. If you have to go out of your way to much then I’m afraid it isn’t worth it.