If every man in the room wanted you…how would that feel? Why is that some women seem to get men to swarm around them like bees on honey while others struggle to keep a man pass the first few dates? Girl, I’ve been asking myself this same question for years! If you ever wondered:
- How can I attract more men?
- Where are all the good men?
- Why don’t men ever approach me?
- Why do I attract the wrong kind of men?
- How do I meet more men?
- How do I keep him hooked after and during the first date?
- Why doesn’t he respond to me like I want to ?
- Why does he withdraw from me?
- Why can’t I ever get a man to love, adore, protect, and provide for me? ….forever?
If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions then you are more than likely struggling with being “magnetic.” Your glow is low girl. This is not uncommon in our society since most of us are doers, thinkers, go-getters, movers and shakers as women and often times we are stressed, unbalanced, overworked, underpaid, stretched thin, and working in our masculine energy more often than not so that we get things done and accomplish as much as possible.
The problem is….this doesn’t work so well with men. They don’t want to love, adore, protect, and provide for another MAN! They want to fall in love with and take care of a WOMAN! Someone who recognizes, loves, and embraces her WOMANHOOD. A woman who realizes she is valuable, worthy, beautiful, and delicious! All of which we wouldn’t use to describe a man instead we tend to want someone masculine, assertive, strong, powerful, protective (in a good way), and handsome! You know the—Idris Elba type! Oh Idris…but how on Earth could you attract a man like Idris ?????
In case you haven’t noticed Idris is extremely masculine! Peep this video he did a few years ago below and then take note of the woman he is with and what he is singing about! Grown folks only!
So in order to attract Idris in all his masculine, sexy glory you would then have to be fully in your feminine, regal glory. Sad part is that in this day in age women hear feminine and get the “SCREAMING!”.
Like what I am suggesting means submitting to a man and cooking meals every night when he comes home (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing!). But, if that’s what you think, then you have a lot to learn about femininity and masculinity. All of which won’t be covered here. But, I am including all of this goodness in my new book coming summer 2015. In the meantime, I want to share with you some of the key things you can do to become a MAN MAGNET in a matter of a weeks!
- Declare It!
The key here is to daily say to yourself “I am a man magnet. All men want to date me, call me, text me, take care of me, love me, respect me.” Add in your own variation but either way you put it. Say it as often as possible, especially in those moments when you feel like you might be obsessing over one man who you can’t seem to get over or when you feel most desperate for a man.
I swear this little trick seems selfish, egocentric, and a bit weird at first but I swear by it—it will automatically switch your vibe and men will start to notice you! It’s all about starting to train your subconscious mind to recognize who you truly are. It can’t tell whether it is true or not…what you say, you become.
2. Speak Up!
Where ever you are and whatever you do for the next few weeks, talk to every man you see that you like. Strike up a conversation about anything. I mean anything. Compliment him, ask for help in a store, girl just say something. I know this probably against everything you’ve ever heard but do it! If you are doing online dating…take the first move. Like his picture or profile first whether he responds or not….it doesn’t matter all that matters is that you are internally building your confidence and your magnetism which will instantly make any man want to be with you.
3. Get a Life!
This means get a life outside of work. Go out and do something you enjoy alone or with friends. Schedule in dates on your calendar with friends so you are constantly out there and men can SEE you. Your RADIANCE can never be felt if you are not out there on his RADAR. No man will ever find you by knocking on your door girl. You have to get up and go out. Try new restaurants, girls night out excursions, say “yes” to more invites to go out places, etc. There are MEN literally everywhere…so get out and meet them.
If you are introverted or more shy….then step outside that comfort zone. Everything you’ve always wanted is on the other side of fear. (P.S. If you’re in a relationship still do this in order to keep him from pulling away…ever felt like he gets hot and then cold?..HANDLE IT honey) P.P.S If you want to meet a high caliber man on your level, then start thinking about where would he be hanging at…go there!
I Want to Know:
- Did you experience any “aha moments” while reading this post?
- What is the hardest part about attracting men for you?
- What other questions do you have about men, magnetism, love, relationships, and dating?