4 Things to Avoid So You Maintain Your Happiness

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We all have exactly one life to live, and yet we spend a huge chunk of it unhappy, stressed or miserable. How many times have you started your day insisting today will be a good day only to end it the same as the day before? At some point we have to be honest with ourselves and accept that our happiness is in our control; stop giving that power to others. If we take a moment to clearly analyze our lives it’s not hard to figure out some of the things that we allow to steal our joy each day.

Toxic Friendships: You know the ones. People who are always focused on the negative in life; either depressed or complaining a lot about any and everything. It’s never their fault. Everything is caused by their circumstances. Because you want to inspire others you may try to encourage them, uplift them or help them with advice. For the most part this is a waste of your time, by the time you finish a conversation with them you feel drained, tired or depressed. Often times you simply have a headache. You just let someone drain your joy and bring you down. As much as you may want to help, there are just some people and situations you have to manage from a distance for your own well being.

Stress/Worry: If you waste a large amount of time today stressed about what could happen will it change it? No? Then stop! You will waste all of that time stressed out, possibly giving yourself an ulcer and for what? It takes some of us a lifetime to realize that life goes on, regardless. The things you may think are the end of the world today will seem miniscule years from now. Look back at your life, think of all the things you have surpassed that seemed impossible at the time. Now give yourself a pat on the back and accept one small fact. You surpassed those things regardless, whether you wasted time worrying about them or not. We spend so many days stressed and worried about things we can’t change, time we can’t get back.

Bad Relationships: You know the ones I mean, those relationships that do not make you happy yet you hold on to them, primarily out of fear. I get it; most of us don’t want to be alone. But have  you ever considered that the time you are spending in a relationship that is clearly making you unhappy is blocking you from possibly meeting the person that will enhance your life, make it better, bring out even more joy than you ever thought was possible?

Loss of Gratitude: Have you ever played the problem game? It basically consists of everyone writing down their individual problems on a piece of paper and throwing them in a hat. Then everyone randomly pulls a slip from the hat and reads it out loud. Once you see everyone else’s problems you decide yours are not so bad after all. The moral of the story is that sometimes you simply have to be grateful for the life you have instead of spending so much time thinking about the people and things you still want. If nothing else, try to think of at least one thing you are grateful for each and everyday.

  • Have you ever tried writing a gratitude journal?
  • There is a challenge going on across the web called #100DaysofHappiness. Have you heard of it? Are you willing to try      it? Personally I’m up for the challenge and will be posting daily via my Instagram if you would like to join me: EricaRegina71

Erica is a freelance writer in Baton Rouge, LA. Her topics normally focus on dating, relationships and women empowerment. She relates to both the male and female perspective that is sometimes serious and occasionally humorous antidotes to help the opposite sex maintain a better understanding of each other. Currently she is working on her first novel. Want more of Erica?
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  1. What you said about toxic friendships can also apply to family members and bad relationships to friendships. Removing or distancing yourself from people who you do not feel happy and joyful around gives us the freedom to experience happiness in so many other areas of our lives. Also, keeping a journal is an incredibly powerful way to put stresses, challenges and obstacles into perspective and help us to focus on what we have to be grateful for.
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